I started my career in New York. I’d gone to grad school in the States—my degree was in public policy and international affairs—and after I graduated, I got a job working for the city government there. My building was a block away from the Twin Towers. I was there on 9/11.
When something like that happens, that brush with mortality, bearing witness to a tragedy, it does change things. I wanted to be close to my family, so I took a job that brought me back home, even though it wasn’t in public service. I also found myself on a path where I wasn’t that focused on giving. Eventually, I started working at a bank with an organized giving program. A lot of people make their contribution decisions after they’ve received their year-end bonuses. Well, the second year I was there, it wasn’t a great year and my bonus was smaller than the year before, so I ended up making a smaller donation. Oddly, in the weeks that followed, I didn’t feel great about that—I was raised in a family where helping neighbours, friends or new immigrants was an ongoing and not at all unusual thing, and reducing my giving wasn’t in line with that—but the feeling eventually passed.
The next year was the ten-year anniversary of 9/11, and I think I finally realized how lucky I was to have survived and been granted a second lease on life. When I looked back on the previous years and the path that I’d been following, I realized that I wanted to do something more with my time and the good luck and good fortune I have. There’s more to life than just working to make money, so I decided from that point forward that I was always going to make my giving decision before I got my compensation numbers.
After that, I started to pay closer attention to who and where and how I was giving money. Over the years, I’ve gone on tours of different agencies and gotten more exposure to the different things that United Way does. I came away with a sense of awe for the people who work at these organizations who are doing everything they possibly can to make other people’s lives better. It made me more committed to supporting United Way.
I guess it shouldn’t be surprising, but I didn’t expect giving to become something that I was doing because I wanted to. I actually feel the joy of giving. It’s a satisfaction that I don’t get in many other places. It’s funny. Giving is almost one of those selfish things you can do because it makes you feel great.